Manage Blue You Can’t Go Back

Yesterday is gone. No matter what you do January 1st, 2001 will not come back. It doesn’t exist and neither does tomorrow. To lament over actions you took or didn’t take will not change what actually happened in the past. Yet, so many people live with regrets that create emotional paralysis. They live with the philosophy of ‘if I could have, should have, wish I had, etc.’. To my knowledge, no one has been given the keys to unlock the door to the past so they can get a “do over”.However, there is a way to deal with the past, such that today is not shaped by it. To start, when we focus on the past, it can create blind spots for what is happening in the present. For example, if you start a business and it fails, it may be difficult to start another. The reminder of the failed business could haunt you. As a result, you could develop a belief that you are not cut out to be an entrepreneur. You may have a conversation with yourself that says, “I tried and it didn’t work out. I’m not cut out for being a business owner because… The same can be said about math class, being a musician, or being a leader.


If we peel back the layers, we will find that perhaps the person with a failed business failed before he started. How? If you grow up in an environment where you hear the following conversations, you may have predetermined failure. In some environments, you hear: “you have to have a lot of money to start a business.” “If your parents were not entrepreneurs, you’re going to fail”. “Only smart people start companies.” “You were not good in school. How can you run a business?” And the list goes on.While those conversations are from your past, they serve as constant reminders of who you are or where you come from. It is an example of how the past can create blind spots for the present. Your actions are always shaped by conversations you have with yourself, even if you are engaged in positive affirmations with friends. What you secretly say to yourself has more power.With that said, you can’t go back and change what you heard either. While the past has shaped you, it does not have to make you. So there is no reason to go back and change the past. However, there is a way to transform the way you see “you” as a past. How you see yourself in the past also shapes how you see yourself today.From so called past experiences, you developed an identity. That identity determines the religion you practice, language you speak, job you choose, neighborhood you live in, etc. And your past is made up a series of events where you made choices. At the same time, those choices were made because of your perspective at that moment. For example, I know a guy who chose to be funny because of an event that occurred when he was 13. Being funny was a great icebreaker for him. It made people comfortable with him from the beginning. Except, when he got involved in high-level business deals, he did not know when to stop telling jokes. As a result, people did not take him seriously and he lost out on deals.As a 13 year old, he believed he had to be funny to fit in. Because it worked at 13, he believed it was a good strategy for everything. While he was well over 50 now, he still had the mindset of his 13 year old self. His entire identity was shaped by the decision to be funny in order to fit in. Now he’s stuck with it.


While he cannot go back and change what happened at 13, he can learn to see that fitting in was the goal of a 13 year old. As an adult, that is not the intention. His intention as an adult was to be a successful businessman. That requires a very different mindset. And that does not mean he needs to change the choice he made at 13. It means he can alter his perspective of what happened at 13. In fact, he was able to see that he didn’t have to fit into that group at 13. The group had already accepted him. More importantly, none of those people are part of his life today. Nevertheless, it seemed they were still running his life 40 years later because as an adult he was still attempting to fit in.To sum it all up, conversations you have heard in your environment are conversations of others, not yours. And the choices you made as a child were the result of what you believed at that age. When you can confront those two thought patterns, you can dismantle them and ultimately free yourself. In a way, it allows you to rewrite your past, while you remain in the present.

Stretching Exercises Netball Girls Teams Need To Do

Netball is becoming a very popular sports for both men and women in different countries. In addition, kids can also have fun playing such sport. Because of this, individuals may find netball courts on their community. Some sports centre even invest to create indoor as well as outdoor courts. And, individuals may also find different playing surfaces. But, in order to enjoy an exciting game with your friends or loved ones, it is important that you do not forget to stretch before every game.

Stretching can sometimes be boring. However, stretching before the game can provide you with numerous benefits. For one, this will help you warm your muscles, which can improve your body movements. Next, stretching exercises can also help you be focused for the game since you can concentrate while stretching. And, stretching can also help you reduce injuries. Some of the injuries that individuals may encounter are damaged knee ligaments and jammed fingers. Not to mention, due to high speed game plays, some individuals may also experience sprained ankles. So, if you are playing with netball girls teams, you need to try out this stretching exercises below.

Dynamic Stretching

Dynamic stretching is one of the most popular exercises netball players need to do. Dynamic stretches activate the stretch reflex and acclimate the body to coordinating neuromuscular movements. Other than that, this type of stretching can also lower the risk of injury and improve a player’s performance. Some of the most common dynamic stretching individuals can do are lunges, heel-toe walks, squats, kicks, trunk rotations and leg and arm swings.

Lower-Body Static Stretching

The next popular stretching individuals can do before netball games is lower-body static. Static stretching reduces muscle soreness after a workout or a game. Plus, it also extends a muscle’s flexibility beyond its familiar range of motion. This is possible since lower-body static stretching target muscle groups that have taken the most stress or load during a game.

Upper-Body Static Stretching

Finally, individuals can also opt for upper-body static stretching. This type of stretching also helps individuals to reduce soreness on their lower body such as the upper back, shoulders, chest and arms. This type of stretching is also ideal after a light cardiovascular activity. With this type of stretching, individuals can improve their performance during the game which will help them win.